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Oils + Romance

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God created Adam and Eve. God created the birds and the bees. So... love is in the air and let's get to talking about it. Before I begin, this is NOT a topic that I normally discuss openly, especially on a public forum. But, I do believe that it's important to normalize sex inside of marriage. I believe in the sanctity of marriage and that God ordained it to be a good thing. And whether you believe it or not, sex is a big part of intimacy. So, I'm not going to shy away from a topic that feels a little adverse for me. After all, I've promised that I would be here to write to you to inspire, equip, and empower you with joy for every season in life- and that means marriage and intimacy and romance... and since it's Valentine's month, why not?!

In this blog, you're going to get all kinds of tips and tricks on how to use oils in the bedroom!


Essential Oils

Let's cover the basics here. "Oils are... the lifeblood of a plant. They protect the plant from disease, provide nutrients and help fight off anything it doesn't want! It keeps the plant (or tree, fruit, bark, root, etc.) healthy and functioning at its best!

Essential oils should smell exactly like the plant they come from – nothing more, nothing less. Often, companies will add things like vanillin to make them smell sweeter. Do your oils smell like a plant or a dessert? If it says 100% pure but it smells sweet, chances are something else has been added. This means that the therapeutic properties are either decreased or nonexistent." -Taylor Quigg

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That is why the Seed to Seal Commitment is so important. I only use YOUNG LIVING Essential Oils. Why? Because of their transparency. No other brand can match their processes. You can visit their farms and get an up-close look at their distillery process. They test their oils over and over and then have an outside source do so as well. All of these factors make a huge difference in quality and effectiveness. 

All oils are NOT created equal.

Here is what makes Young Living different:

- YL farms and partner farms abide by strict standards.

- YL selects the strongest seeds from strong thriving plants. They will not over-produce for quantity or stock needs. They only produce what the healthy plants will provide.

- Pest Control: All plants are hand-weeded and use oils on plants to avoid the use of toxic chemicals.

- Plants are harvested at peak times to ensure quality oils, down to the hour.

- Distilleries are on site to prevent contamination and process without chemicals.

- Every batch has several tests to pass and done 3 times each by YL and outside parties. If it doesn’t meet their standards because of weather conditions or for any other reason, it does not get used.


3 Ways to Use Oils

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Using oils aromatically, in a diffuser, is amazing for emotional support. If you need a little courage to help get you in the mood, your diffuser may just do the trick.

How to Use a Diffuser:

If you've never diffused oils before, all you have to do is get your diffuser, fill to the full line with water and then add 6 drops of oils. Most diffusers vary in size and time, so be sure to read the instructions. Some even have some really neat lighting options. If you want to get started with a diffuser, we can help you!

How to Clean:

You'll want to clean about once a week or in between strong blend changes.

  1. Turn off and unplug your diffuser.

  2. Wipe out the reservoir with a wet cotton cloth.

  3. Dip a cotton swab in rubbing alcohol and clean the ultrasonic plate to remove any extra buildup.

  4. Rinse the reservoir with water; then wipe it clean and dry up excess water with a soft cloth.

  5. Add water and essential oils; then diffuse away!

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You can apply oils to vitaflex points for the male and female reproductive systems; these vitaflex points for males is the outer left ankle. For women, it's the outer right ankle. The brain's vitaflex points are the thumb and big toe. You can also use them in other places too. No matter where you apply them, they will absorb into your bloodstream within 26 seconds and within 2 minutes reach every cell in your body.

NOTE: When using an essential oil for the first time, make sure and dilute it with a carrier oil such as coconut or olive oil, and apply it to your forearm to see how you like it before adding it to any sensitive areas. If your skin is irritated at any length either dilute the oil more or avoid that oil altogether.

Never use UNDILUTED HOT oils such as Thieves, Lemongrass, Peppermint, and Panaway, on sensitive areas. If you feel too much heat, simply apply more carrier oil to the area. - GROworkspace


"Young Living oils are PURE, which means they are GRAS - Generally Regarded As Safe for consumption. In the US, the YL internal/dietary line is called the vitality line. The vitality line has labels and directions indicating they are for internal consumption."- GROworkspace

IMPORTANT NOTE: Please do your own research about these products if you are pregnant to determine if you feel comfortable using them. 


Oils + Romance

My friends Steph and Steph had a little mimosa chit-chat about oils and romance. Take a listen. Be sure the kiddos aren't listening. ;) ;)

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Low Libido?

One of the most common sexual dysfunctions is low libido. Did you know:

"As many as 43% of women and 31% of men have experienced sexual dysfunction?"-Clevaland Clinic

At the top of that list is low libido. Don't fret. You (or your partner) aren't alone in that struggle, and we've got some tips to help. A mismatched sex drive is kind of... normal. So, what you can you do about it and what does this have to do with oils? We are going to help you find solutions to help get you and your partner get in the mood and increase your libido with OILS.

Do you know the cause of a low libido in your intimate life? It's essential that you find the cause and then deal with it directly. While there are several ways to deal with these causes, oils can actually help with several of these including stress, sad or anxious thoughts, and coping with trauma. Next week, we will cover oils and emotions, so hang tight. Using oils to combat stressful situations can help you and your spouse rekindle that intimacy you both long for in your marriage.

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A few possible reasons you could be experiencing low libido could be...

- Birth control pills - Menopause - Aging - Family problems and stress - Depression and anxiety - Trauma in your past

If you happen to be the opposite, with a high libido, diffuse or take a whiff of Marjoram oil to help you meet your spouse in the middle to help them increase theirs.

Set the Mood with Intention

Let's be for real, ladies, doesn't sex start way before we even get into the bedroom?! Most of us don't just jump right into bed ready to do the dang thing. Here are some ideas to help set the tone and get you in the mood for a little somethin' somethin' later:

Put it on the Calendar

Ok, so I know that sounds like the polar opposite of exciting and sexy, but when your schedule is crazy busy, sometimes you have to pencil in those important meetings between the sheets.

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Put on Something Sexy

It's important to be intentional about our wardrobe- whether it be a little lace or lingerie, a little thoughtfulness and intention will go a long way for your man.

Talk Flirty

A simple text to your spouse saying, “Can’t wait to spend an evening alone” might be just be a pleasant surprise with a little anticipation for you both.

Oil Up Buttercup

"Use Orange, Sensation, or Geranium to get you in the mood. Apply topically or diffuse.

- Orange - Brings joy to the heart, peace, and happiness to the mind. 

- Sensation - Contains Coriander, Ylang ylang, Furanocoumarin-free Bergamot, Jasmine, and Geranium to encourage feelings of love and affection when diffused.

- Geranium - May help release negative memories and take us back to peaceful, joyful moments. Also helps ease nervous tension and lowers the defenses that may be preventing you from being open and receptive to new ideas."- GROworkspace 

Clean Up Nice

Before, you hope into the shower, if you've had a hectic day, breathe in some Stress Away Essential Oil as the water warms up. Young Living has several products to help you in the bath and body department, including bath soaps and shower gels infused with oils.

Here are a few popular bath gels for romance:

- Sensation Bath & Shower Gel - 8 oz  - Dragon Time Bath & Shower Gel - 8 oz  - Make your own special scent with the unscented Bath & Shower Gel Base - 8 oz

Add scent as desired, maybe that awesome Orange oil to help you set the mood.

And Let's Not Forget Those Legs

Don't forget to shave! (I shouldn't have to say that, but you know we all need a reminder, especially in the winter.) Smooth legs can enhance the mood. One way to make them silky smooth is to use the Mirah Shave Oil. Exotic baobab, meadowfoam, and avocado oils work together with the exclusive Mirah essential oil blend to reduce razor drag, bumps, and nicks. It makes a great aftershave, as well.

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Glowing Skin

In case you haven't caught wind, we are advocates of the "know better, do better" movement. What does that mean? It means that we realize the lack of regulation on our products in the US and we want better. We want to have skin care products without so many chemicals lurking in them. The chemicals in today's beauty products including skincare and even made for children "are neurotoxic, are endocrine disrupting, and are known carcinogens."- GROworkspace. There's hope though. You can avoid toxic chemicals when you buy clean products from Young Living. 

If you're 25 or older, you should have a skincare regimen in place that serves to cleanse, tone, and moisturize. The 3-step ART Skincare collection serves all three of those. You can also add in the "ART Renewal Serum to create a smooth canvas ready for your beautiful Savvy Mineral Makeup."- GROworkspace. Using a toner every day after cleansing will bring your skin's pH level back to a healthy state. The ART toner is alcohol-free and won't dry out your skin. 

Put Ya Face On, Girl

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Savvy Minerals is the exclusive makeup line for Young Living. If you're looking for a toxin-free makeup, look no further. They are in the midst of doing a huge transformation of this line to make it EVEN better! But, in short, this "makeup is free from gluten, mineral oil, nano-particles, metals, parabens, phthalates, synthetic colorants, dyes, talc, bismuth, and petrochemicals. It is also never tested on animals."- GROworkspace

If you're interested in learning more about the beauty products you purchase off the shelves, you're welcome to check out the dangers of the Environmental Working Group (EWG) Skin Deep Site.

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"If you want something beneficial for your skin, you're in luck. Savvy Minerals contain ingredients like Aspen bark extract. Aspen bark extract has skin-softening properties and acts as a natural preservative. Bye Bye nasty parabens. Kaolin clay sucks out impurities such as grime, dirt, pollution, and germs from the pores. Hello, clear skin! It contains other gems like jojoba oil, mica, aloe, arrowroot powder, sweet almond oil, beeswax (in the lipstick), sunflower oil, vitamin E, and of course, pure essential oils."-GROworkspace

Savvy Minerals make up is designed to enhance your natural beauty. Foundation shades are forgiving, making it easy to match online and you can blend colors to get your perfect match in every season. 

Oils + Hormones

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Oils for Hormones

The most important take away about hormones is that a healthy reproductive system makes a girl happy.

"Progesterone is a hormone in the body that stimulates and regulates various functions. It's produced in the ovaries, the placenta (when you get pregnant), and the adrenal glands. It helps prepare your body for pregnancy and conception, regulates your menstrual cycle, and impacts your libido." -Healthy Women

Progessence Plus serum was formulated for women and specifically for women over 30.

- Apply one drop to your wrists every night. After a week or two, you can apply one drop to wrists morning and night. I put my roller fitment on this one, to make it an easy roll on, plus help control the amount applied.

- Progessence Plus also makes a lovely perfume. This is one you want to stock up on because it is so popular.

Note: you should not use this while on birth control or while pregnant. For more information about the ingredients view the product information page.

Lady Sclareol is an oil blend created especially for women to enhance the feminine nature and provide a relaxing experience when diffused.

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SclarEssence™ supports overall wellness with the properties of pure essential oils, including Clary Sage and Fennel.

Use Lady Sclareol and SclarEssence oils in your daily regimen by applying to the female reproductive vitaflex points or over your lower abdomen daily. 

Note: Avoid using during pregnancy.


Negative energy and moods can decrease sexual drive. So, it's important to remember these oils to boost your intimate mood!

Dragon Time is a proprietary blend of Fennel, Clary Sage, Marjoram, Lavender, Blue Yarrow, and Jasmine essential oils. Its sweet, herbaceous aroma can help promote feelings of stability and calm during cycles of moodiness.

Dragon Time was created JUST for that time of the month... to help tame the dragon. You can apply to wrists before and during your cycle as needed, diffuse it, or use it in an Epsom salt bath.

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EndoFlex™ is a blend of Spearmint, Geranium, and other pure essential oils that help create a calming and balancing aroma when diffused. 

Your endocrine system tells your body what hormones to produce and when to produce them. EndoFlex helps regulate those hormones to keep your endocrine system in balance. It also helps you avoid fatigue which helps boost your energy so that you're ready for action.

You can also dilute with a carrier oil and apply EndoFlex topically over your adrenal glands (mid back) and thyroid (throat). 

Sexy Time Oils

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Ylang Ylang

This is such an important single oil in the Joy and Sensation blends to balance your male and female energies. It both relaxes you and arouses your libido.

Clary Sage

This blend is calming and relaxing and will really help put you in the mood.

Note: Do not use this one if you're pregnant. Save it to use during birth; it helps with labor induction! Avoid Clary Sage during or after consumption of alcohol.


This lovely blend is filled with uplifting, rejuvenating, and stimulating aromas. Infused with Ylang Ylang, it brings in feelings of love and affection, and may produce feelings of confidence.

Diffuse Sensation with Orange oil for a luxurious scent and intimate aroma.


This is a blend of Bergamot, Ylang Ylang, Geranium, Lemon, Tangerine, Coriander, Jasmine, Roman Chamomile, Palmarosa, and our beloved Rose oil. Our lush Rose oil is valued at over $180 a bottle and has a frequency of over 300. High-frequency oils are so amazing for your health, both mentally and physically, boosting your energy.

Tip: Use it topically over your heart, in between your breasts, and inner thigh. If you don't prefer a floral scent, add some orange oil to help zest it up.

CAUTION: Avoid the exposure to the sun with citrus oils as they are photosensitive and can irritate your skin when paired with sunlight.

Oils for Your Man

So are you wondering, "How do you get husbands on board with oils?" There are two ways to get your guy on-board: Bring oils into the bedroom OR bring home a pay-check by sharing your oils. Men never say no to more sex and more money. Right? -GROworkspace

Let's talk about some oils that will help get his blood flowing and help his soldier stand tall and proud.

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Idaho Blue Spruce

This oil isn't a SPRUCE for nothing. It totally spices things up. This oil helps your man STAND at ATTENTION according to Lucy Libido. This oil is a WIN all-around. I mean who would say "No" to firmer for longer? "He will feel totally macho and you get to enjoy it all a little longer." - GROworkspace

For You

Use it with a carrier oil to make as a massage oil for a little extra cooling sensation for you. Great to incorporate during warm-up time with a little play massage. Three to five drops 20 minutes before go time.

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Golden Rod

The name of this oil, really says it all. If you're looking for a Golden Rod, then this oil should go in your Essential Rewards order NOW!

You... "Typically, use it in a love potion. Use on his inner thighs and work your way up. Pretty soon you will have a goldenrod on your hands, or in your hands..." -GROworkspace


Nutmeg is known for increasing circulation. Paired with Golden Rod, these two make a great combo. Make sure and dilute this one before you apply it to the skin.

Make Him a Shutran Man

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Young Living's Shutran Line, contains Idaho Blue Spruce, Ocotea, Hinoki, Ylang Ylang, Coriander, Davana, Cedarwood, Lemon, and Lavender essential oils.

"This one was released as "Cologne" but it is so much more than that. Have you ever heard of pheromones? Pheromones are behavior-altering agents. They are unlike most other hormones. They are ectohormones - they act outside the body of the individual that is secreting them. Most hormones just impact the individual secreting them but ectohormones impact a behavior of ANOTHER individual and can induce activity such as sexual arousal." - GROworkspace

This one was made for you ladies, to entice you! This oil can be used for every day wear, like cologne to boost his confidence. He can put it on his forearms, his shaft, and inner thighs. 

If your man decides he needs a fresh shave, Shutran Shave is in the cards before this romantic night!

Oils for you Both

Need a little courage? Use Valor or Hong Kuai

Valor is a blend of Black Spruce, Blue Tansy, Frankincense, Camphor, and Geranium essential oils. This blend, when diffused and applied to wrists and ears, will bring about confidence you didn't know you had.

Hong Kuai's scent promotes spiritual awareness and inspires clarity, intuition, and action. Diffuse into the air or use in a relaxing bath.

Mister is an oil blend of Sage, Fennel, Lavender, Myrtle, Peppermint, and Yarrow was originally formulated for him to help balance the male energies. But, this one is for the girls too! If your man needs a little libido boost, then this one is just the one for him. Have him apply this oil to his ankles and front and back pelvic bones.

Ladies, if you ever have hot flashes, like a heat wave just hit you, this one can be great for you to use on a daily basis.

Diffuser Blends

Set the Mood

3 drops Orange

3 drops Geranium or Sensation

Ladies Choice

2 drops Geranium

2 drops Ylang ylang

4 drops White Angelica

I'm Ready

- 4 drops Sensation

- 2 drops Hong Kuai

- 2 drops Lavender

Confident Breeze

- 5 drops Valor

- 3 drops Hong Kuai

Post Love Fest- Sleep So Well

3 drops Cedarwood

3 drops Lavender

Roller Blends

Put in a 10 ml bottle and fill with carrier oil.

The Energizer Bunny

- 8 drops Grapefruit

- 4 drops Lemon

- 4 drops Lavender

- 2 drops Basil

Sensational Skin (for him and her)

- 25 drops Lavender

- 25 drops Frankincense

- Apply to areas of concern 2x daily for 1-2 months


Thigh High Love Potions

Apply these potions to the mid to upper inner thigh.

Sweet and Spicy for her

- 20 drops Ylang Ylang

- 20 drops Cypress

- 5 drops Lavender

- 5 drops Clove (optional - add the spicy)

Macho Man

- 20 drops Hong Kuai

- 10 drops Goldenrod

- 10 drops Idaho Blue Spruce

- 5 drops Black Pepper

Massage Oils

Tingle Massage Oil

So many people report back, "He LOVED that one!"

- 1 oz carrier oil of choice

- 5 drops Peppermint

- 5 drops Black Pepper

- 5 drops Sensation 

You can also replace Sensation oil and carrier oil with Sensation massage oil.  

Fresh and Clean

Lubrication oil that keeps you fresh and clean hours if not days after the act.

- 2-10 drops Ylang Ylang 

- 2 drops Geranium 

- 1-2 drops Orange 

- 5 drops Lavender 

- 3 drops Peppermint 

- 3 drops Clove 

- 3 drops Cypress 

- 2 drops Tea Tree 

- 4 oz fractionated coconut oil or grapeseed oil.

Latex Friendly

- 2 tsp Trader Joe's aloe vera

- 2 Tsp water

- 1/2 Tsp glycerin

- 1/2 tsp Vit E

- Blend and enjoy.

Edible Body Butter

- 3 Tbs solid coconut oil

- 1/2 tsp beeswax

- 1 tsp grapeseed oil

- 1/2 tsp coconut cream

- 1/2 tsp Agave

- 20 drops Grapefruit Vitality 

- 10 drops Lime Vitality 

Melt the beeswax and solid coconut oil. Put in the fridge to cool for 10 minutes. Add coconut cream, agave, grapeseed oil, essential oils, and whip together. Feel free to swap out citrus oils for your taste preference.

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Romance Kit

Oils + Romance Class // Romance Kit // Post #17

If you are not yet a Young Living member, reach out to the person that invited you to this class and get started with one of Young Living's Premium Starter Kits or create your own starter kit with products that will turn up the heat between the sheets.

  1. Start with the Basic Starter Kit ($35) to receive your no-strings-attached wholesale membership. Your wholesale account will allow you to order all of YL's products at a 24% discount. The Basic Kit includes a 5 ml bottle of Stress Away, 2 packets of NingXia Red, Thieves Mints, and Thieves Hand Sanitizer.

  2. Hand select your products of choice. Choose between essential oils, makeup, skin care and other personal care products and find a few more excuses to get romantic.

  3. ENJOY! Here is an example of a great starter set to have all you need. Basic Starter Kit - $35 / 0 PV Desert Mist Diffuser - $63.75 / 38.25 PV Sensation Massage oil - $35.75 Orange - $11 Idaho Blue Spruce - $29.50 Shutran Shave cream - $20.25 Valor - $39.75 Cypress - $19.75 Black pepper - $19.25 Geranium - $42.50 TOTAL investment - $316.50 / 256 PV

Receive FREE products for reaching over 250 PV! You will receive over $115 worth of FREE extra products with this purchase including 15 ml Cedarwood, 15 ml Ylang Ylang, and 15ml Patchouli. Want to grab your Romance Kit and take advantage of all these freebies?

Essential Rewards is a monthly wellness box. You chose the date you want to place your order and the products it contains. When you order on the rewards program you receive points back just for ordering, free gifts and bonus products when you hit a certain amount in PV.

Join our FREE Ditch and Switch Lifestyle Group on Facebook anytime.


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Essential Rewards

Reap all the benefits of membership when you click "YES" on both boxes when you enroll for Essential Rewards!


Happy Oiling,


References: Young Living, GROworkspace, Healthy Women

*These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease.


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